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Post by duck on Aug 10, 2007 12:09:37 GMT -5
ok...so i have this friend and he converted to the church 1 yr and half ago. he lives about 3 hrs away from me so we just use the phone to comunicate. he just got kicked out of his house by his dad and step mom. he has been living on his own at the age 17 for 3 weeks now. he is working with his sister at a subway, he is always depressed and i just try to be there for him. he isnt active anymore sense he moved to utah cause he siad the members in his ward were "jerks" and judged him. so he doesnt go. well now that he moved 2 hrs away i told him to try his new church...he already did and claims that it is the same. he is always complainning and i told him to find an adult role in his life..that has the smae standards as him (he believes in the lds church all the way) and i was thinkin a bishop. but i dont think that he took it very well. i feel bad for his situation but i cant always give sympathy for him about the same things over and over again. i am so lost on what i should do...please help!
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Post by ldsgirl on Aug 13, 2007 2:41:52 GMT -5
Kevin,
I re-posted your post on the other website so that there would be more responses. Here are the first two:
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Anime Queen Joined: Jun 2007 Gender: Female Posts: 1,033 Location: A galaxy far far away Karma: 23 [ Exalt | Smite ] Re: Alternate website « Reply #12 on Aug 11, 2007, 5:56am »
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sometimes showing them the brutal reality helps but sometimes it doesn't.... Maybe he should pray about it. Soccerfoo Global Moderator
Joined: Jun 2007 Gender: Male Posts: 515 Location: Utah Karma: 19 [ Exalt | Smite ] Re: Alternate website « Reply #13 on Yesterday at 7:48pm »
-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Hey! Well.. give him the talk by I think Elder Bednar about being offended.. because he feels like he is being judged by these people and that makes him feel offended so he fell away. When they split my ward and put us in a new one, my whole family felt like that and everyone of us wanted to move because our new ward had like a bunch of old bishops and stake presidents and we just didnt seem to fit in, and I kept going while my brother stopped, and now my whole family loves our new ward and my brother is starting to come again. I think he just has to realize that he has to give them a chance and its his attitude that makes the difference. He has to make the decision of what's important in his life.. its hard because you can only do so much for him.. I know the feeling. But really it just comes down to personal choice and he has to realize that the church should be his #1 priority and everything will fall into place after that. I hope that their post were of some help to you.
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Post by ldsgirl on May 4, 2009 16:36:26 GMT -5
Here is the other post that was written by the person seeking help:
So, all in all, relationships have been pretty good. I haven't taken any serious strides, and yet have gone on a ton of "just for fun" dates, which have been produced some good times!
Here's where I need the advice. For some odd reason there have been a lot of birthdays in the last month or so, which means a lot of sweet sixteen/birthday parties. We were already really good friends before, but at these parties I began to hang out with this girl named Angie a lot more than anyone, and all of a sudden I just constantly want to see and talk to her. She lives in a different ward about 40 minutes away, but there's just this connection.
She turns 16 in about two weeks, and I'm starting to waver on my stance of not getting into any relationships. I've already had people come up to me and ask me if we were going out because we act like best friends as it is. It's like that too, kind of like how much you'd want to see a best friend who moved away. So once she hits 16 I'm going to ask her on a fun date, but I'm almost wanting to move into more of a relationship. Based on what I've said does that sound realistic or advisable?
Second of all, in the midst of all of this, I've started to sort of open up in school and all of a sudden now (why does the timing for everything have to be ironic? lol) there are a lot of girls who decide they want a relationship. This is where the title comes from, by the way. I've kind of just been changing the subject or saying no in a hidden way, because honestly, I don't know how to turn a girl down without just ruining her. So anyone have any advice on how I can do this in the least pain-staking way?
(and they're not just pulling for dates, otherwise I'd be fine. Something about the school people and needing to have a relationship )
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